I am looking for the right woman… not the perfect one!

Hi.

One sentence which probably many singles get to hear from their friends is: “Stop looking for the perfect woman/man!“. Well, sorry, but I never said that I am looking for the perfect woman.

It’s a big mistake/misunderstanding. I think many friends think that, when you are a bit longer single, you are looking for something perfect. The perfect match with the perfect partner. They are afraid that you are looking for something which doesn’t exist or which you never will get.
It is nice that they care, but they are wrong. ๐Ÿ™‚

I am not looking for a perfect woman – I am looking for the right woman. That is a difference.

A perfect woman – perfect match – would be very boring, I believe. First of all is that really hard to find (if any way possible). And then imagine someone on which you can’t explore anything, because you know already everything. Your partner would think like you, would have the same hobbies, the same feelings, would like the same food, the same drinks, the same taste of music, movies and would have the same interests. Never differences or other opinions. I mean 100% the same. What would be interesting about it. Sure, 100% harmony. No discussions about nothing. Always the same opinion. It’s not possible to find it and I am not sure if that would be an fulfilled relationship.

But what means then “right woman” (for me)? The right woman is the woman which makes me happy (more then everybody else). Who gives me the feeling that I don’t want to miss her anymore in my live… even more, with which I want to share the rest my life. With which I can imagine to sit even with 80 years on a park bench next to each other. A woman who shares many of my preferences. A woman with which I can and I want to talk about everything. A woman I want to love… because I think she deserve it.

It sounds like a perfect match. But the difference is that she don’t need to be perfect. Every human has his own opinions. Maybe she has another taste of music. Well, ok, I can live with it. That is the thing… to find someone who is different, but still fit. Not the taste of music or food or drinks or whatever makes love. The whole person is important.
It will not fit if we have nothing in common… that is for sure. But not everything has to fit.

It sounds confusing, I know. But I believe you know what I mean.

The most important is the feeling I have when I am with someone together (from the first moment). If I feel good with her, then it is a great start. If we can talk… let’s go on. If I like her smell and how it feels to feel her… If I like her personality… ย almost in love. … These things.
I mean you don’t meet someone and ask “What is your favorite band?” … “Metallica” … “Oh sorry, I like Guns’n’Roses. We don’t fit. Ciao” … That is not how it works.

There are things which need to fit and others which don’t need. And everybody has his own opinion about what need to fit and what not. Everybody has other priorities.
My most important one is how I feel when we are together. If I don’t feel good and happy… then is it lost case. That’s why I need to meet her in real (even we meet here in the internet) to make a real decision about if I could love her or not.
As I said on the main page already. ย This webpage is make the first contact… nothing else. I need to see, smell, touch, talk, etc. That are the things which really matters and connect.

To make a conclusion (before I totally get off the subject ๐Ÿ™‚ ). The “right woman” is not perfect! But in my eyes she is perfect enough that I want to spend my whole life with her.

What do you think?

Ciao
Gordon

I am still alive, i am still single…

Hi,

I wasn’t writing here for ages. I was very busy in the last time and actually I lost a bit the sense of this webpage. The page is now over 1 year online… I can count the emails I got on 2 hands. ๐Ÿ™ So, there is not much feedback. Don’t know why. Maybe I didn’t advertise it enough… or I am not interesting enough. … Don’t know.

The email I got was very different. Some women wrote just “hey cool that you are doing it”… but no reply after my answer. One wrote very nice that she like me and so, but also no reply after my answer.
With one I wrote in the first 2 days a lot of emails and we understood really really good. And she is living in UK, so more or less close. … But after that 2 days there was one answer per week, then 2 weeks, then some when … and now I didn’t heard for almost 2 month nothing from her anymore. I’ve tried to contact her several times… but without answer … why writing more and more? Maybe it is just a “polite way” to say “fuck off”. And it looked really good. We had a lot things in common and I liked the way she is. But what can I do. I can’t to force anybody… even sometimes I wish I could ๐Ÿ™‚

So, I am still single and somehow I still hope that here comes a lady around which thinks “Wou, sounds nice… lets find out more about this guy” and is really interested to have a relationship. I mean I had in this year also dates in real. But it seems like it is a strange world (or should I say strange people) at the moment. Beside the fact that sometimes I didn’t liked her or she didn’t liked me, there was also other reasons why we didn’t ended up in a relationship.

One was so busy with herself that we could meet just once in 2 weeks… and she is living around the corner. Sorry, but if I have a relationship then I want to see my partner as often as we can. Of course is the life not just fun and everybody has to work and doing some stuff. But if I see my partner only once per week (if we live close) then I don’t need a relationship.

Another woman told me straight away that I can’t be her guy because I can’t buy her now a house and afford the lifestyle that she is sitting at home and take care about the home and the children. Well… at least she was very honest. I never told her how much money I have… but actually she was right. And even if I would have this 1 million euro on my bank account… she wouldn’t have been my mate. First of all I don’t want a house and children yet. And second is that I don’t like to have a relationship because of money. Relationship is because of feelings, love and friendship. If money plays a main role in the game then has it nothing to do with it anymore.

Just 2 examples of several. But the most ‘gross’ ones. Sometimes I really ask myself if there are still woman outside somewhere which really want – and can ‘afford’ – to have a serious relationship. Or do I have maybe an old or strange point of view to relationships?

Who knows. Maybe tell me! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Ciao
Gordon

Happy New Year :)

Hi.

I am a bit late, but… Happy New Year ๐Ÿ™‚ I hope you had a good start in the year 2012 and the rest of the year will be great for you ๐Ÿ˜‰

My start was a bit boring. All my friends was in holiday or dancing on other parties. So I said cheers to myself ๐Ÿ™‚ But not bad. The rest of the year will become better… hopefully ๐Ÿ˜‰

Also my x-mas angel wasn’t showing up ๐Ÿ™ So, you have still the change to be my x-mas angel next Christmas ๐Ÿ˜‰ Don’t be shy… write me! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Ciao ciao
Gordon

Happy New Year 2012

Hi.

I wish you all a Happy New Year!!! ๐Ÿ™‚ And that your dreams become true… but think: nothing comes from nothing ๐Ÿ˜‰ ๐Ÿ˜€

And I hope that 2012 will be there year where I finally find my one and only girl ๐Ÿ™‚ 2011 wasn’t successful. 2012 need to be more successful in many kinds.
And the first success will be to stop finally smoking. That’s why I can’t write much today… cause I can’t concentrate today.

Take care and don’t forget to write me if you think I could be your love / soul mate ๐Ÿ˜‰

Ciao
Gordon

X-Mas time – The “celebration of love” – Das Fest der Liebe

Hi,

soon is Christmas time. In Germany they call it “Das Fest der Liebe” … like “the celebration of Love”. It is the time when the whole family meets and you visit – or at least think – on all beloved people. It was always a special date in the year. Especially also from this point of view. Love.

As more pity is it when you are alone on Christmas. Especially in meaning of “being single”. X-Mas time is also mostly a very cold time. Couples spend more time together and are more close… to warm each other up… in front of the fireplace or under the sheet ๐Ÿ™‚

I am totally alone this year. I can’t afford to fly home to my family and my friends at home. Most of my friends here are in holiday over Christmas. And I am single. Nobody for the fireplace or to warm up under the bed-sheet.
I will not cry… just mention it… and maybe there is some Christmas angel out there who is also alone on Christmas… and don’t want to be that ๐Ÿ˜‰ You don’t need to be alone out there in the big world… here is someone who would be happy to have a nice Christmas Angel… and I found out recently that I am good in cooking Glรผhwein (warm/hot wine with some spices and fruits… very yummy and is warming up like hell ! ๐Ÿ˜‰ ).

I don’t know if I have time to write before X-Mas. That’s why I will say already:

I wish you all a Merry Christmas. Celebrate it with your family, your friends and your love (if you have one)! You never know what comes next… so enjoy it! And of course I wish you as well a hard-working Santa… that you will receive a lot of gifts ๐Ÿ˜‰ IF you was a good girl ๐Ÿ˜€

Where is my Christmas Angel?

PS: I will think as well on all the people which can’t be with their family and friends this year, because they are somewhere out there in the world. I wish you all the best and anyway a great X-Mas time. You are not alone! ๐Ÿ˜‰

I’ve met a girl… my conclusion

Hi again,

today I am in writing mood ๐Ÿ™‚ Ok, just a lot to write about.

I’ve met a girl… yeah… huuu… and I am still single ๐Ÿ˜ฎ Why? What happen? I tell you.

Here is almost always the first question “Where are you from?”. Cause the people here are from everywhere. That is a normal question here and nothing bad. And I am curious about people from other countries ๐Ÿ™‚

Anyway. She is from Georgia. But also other blood in the family. She lived quite long time in Russia before she came here. Ok, nice… lets see what happen.
So we met and it was nice. She felt good and we was fine with each other. I liked her a lot.

Friday she was out with friends and had a party with them. I was working and was going late to bed. Approx. 3 o’clock in the morning. Was ready to fall asleep when my phone was ringing. It was she. She asked what I am doing and if I would like that she comes around. Sure I wanted ๐Ÿ™‚ Wanted to see her of course. She said 15 minutes. … One hour later she was there. I’ve opened the door and she couldn’t even walk normally. I had to support her that she was not falling up the stairs. In that condition she drove with the car to me! (I didn’t hear that on the phone ๐Ÿ™ )

She was not really talking things which make sense. But one I remember well, because it was hurting me a lot. I need to say that she earns good money, I am just “normal”. And one thing she said was like “That is not the 800 Euro clock, this one worse just 100 Euro. And my wallet is empty, just cards in there”… after that I was a bit shocked and speechless! … Why does she come if she think that I will steal her clock and the money out of her wallet!?

Few days later we was talking on Skype and she mentioned that the evening was great and she would like to repeat that. I couldn’t hold myself and mentioned for my part “But I hope not drunk again.” and I mentioned also the “little” trust problem from both sides (which I have as well, to be honest, but in another case)… that was to much for her and she called me “still a kid”. I said nothing anymore… just to let this last statement as a last statement.

I mean it was our 4th meeting. She was totally pissed (so much that she couldn’t remember anything next day) and was driving like that. She trust me so much that she is afraid I could steal her valuable watch and money…!!! Hello!?
But that was not really all. She is married with her job and mentioned several times like “You can’t trust men. Never and non of them”… also not very nice to hear… I mean I am included then in this “non of them”…
And on the other hand I also didn’t had trust to her. After that night more less.

So, no dates anymore with this girl. It is better I believe ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

The sad thing on that story is… I always met girls like that. ๐Ÿ™ Seems like I have a internal magnet for that type of girls ๐Ÿ™
Who can rescue me and show me that there are still good girls out there? There are still good girls out there… isn’t it?!?!!?

Would you / Are you writing love letters?

Hi,

today I have a question. ๐Ÿ™‚ I would like to interact a bit with the people.. else I become the feeling I write for myself here and nobody is reading ๐Ÿ™‚

So, my first question in my new “question” category is:

Do you write love letters for your love?

Or would you?

I mean real letters. Not email. With paper and pen! ๐Ÿ˜‰ The old school style ๐Ÿ˜‰

I can answer the question with yes. I was two times in my live really in love with a woman. I mean really, not just this flirting and feeling a bit sympathy. And with this both I was writing also love letters. Ok, with the first one a lot. With the second one (10 years later), not so much. But the second one I wrote even a own poem. ๐Ÿ™‚ Some people would say now “That is sappy (is it the right word?)”… but for me is it romantic. It has some great old school style… and is nice. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Ok, I don’t write books and not every day. But especially in the beginning is it nice… and after 10 years of relationship… can it be as well nice to receive a love letter ๐Ÿ˜‰ (Need to have this in mind ๐Ÿ™‚ )

So, how about you? Love letter yes or no? ๐Ÿ™‚

I need your help to spread my word

Hi,

I need your help.

I checked my visitor statistics for my webpage and saw that not many people visit my webpage. Just a few was looking on it here. ๐Ÿ™ And who knows how many single woman was in that few visitors…

I would like to ask you to support me and this webpage. Maybe you have a webpage as well, then it would be great if you could add a link from your page to my page or maybe you would have time to write a few words about me and my search.
Or maybe you are in a forum and you have a bit space in your signature. Would be nice if you could add a link and a few words there.

And please don’t forget to follow me on Twitter and/or Facebook and the Google+-Button is also there ๐Ÿ™‚

Any kind of support and leading (single woman) visitors to my webpage would be really nice and I would be really thankful for that!

I give my best as well of course to lead woman here. But I have not much experience in this things and to be honest also not 24 hours per day to spread my word in the internet. I am only one person and my possibilities are limited. ๐Ÿ™ So, please help me to make this webpage a bit more successful and hopefully my soul mate will find me soon :)) It is soon Christmas…

Or if you have any other idea how to promote my searching… tell me. I am open for everything (which not mean that I do everything ๐Ÿ˜› ).

Hope for your support.

Ciao
Gordon

You are my love

You are my love … aren’t you?

How do we know who is our love and who not? Love is a feeling. You can’t calculate love! You need to feel it.

I realized that often. Everybody see every day people on the street and sometimes we see someone where we think “Wou… what a good looking girl/guy!”. And maybe we get contact with her/him… and maybe he/she has a good job, lot of money, is intelligent and looks exactly like we prefer. And anyway we don’t feel it. We don’t feel well, we don’t feel it is right, we don’t feel this special feeling in the tummy.

And then we meet someone else – maybe by accident – and without any thinking about relationship or something. Just we meet someone, become friends. Not more, because he/she is not our “type”. And then, one day, we realize that we feel very very well with this person and our tummy become more and more crazy… as more often we meet this person and talk to the person. We fall in love… with someone we didn’t expected.

So, one again. There is no scheme. Lets meet and see. ๐Ÿ˜‰

My love and the religion question

Hi,

I was mentioned it in the last post already… today I would like to say a few words about religion. I don’t know how you think about it, but it is a think which should be mentioned.

Some people say “I want only a partner which has the same religion as I have.” and other people don’t care. I can count myself to the second. I don’t care which religion my partner have. The important thing is how she behave with it.

I am atheist. That doesn’t mean that I believe in nothing, like many people think. I have just the freedom to choose what I would like to believe in. And it means as well that I am able (by my personality as well) to respect all other religions and what people believe in. I don’t say that you can’t do this when you have a religion. But I think it is more hard then to accept another believing.

Anyway. It is not important if you are Atheist as well or Christian or Buddhist or whatever. I can respect and accept that. As long as you are a fanatic believer (means that you are still well able to use your own head) and you respect and accept my believing. Maybe I will learn some things from your believing, if I want to learn that.

In general is my believing that we should find out our own way. By using our own brain, by learning from our own life and own experience. I can’t believe in something which you can’t see, which nobody ever saw. But I can believe and learn from things which I saw, felt and touched in my life.

Sure I believe as well in things which I never saw. But then I had experience in an other way with it. For example guardian angels, when I had my accident. But most of the time I am realistic and believe what I see. What I think what is right and what is wrong. Maybe it is right, maybe I am wrong in some cases. But then it was my own decision. Not the one from someone or something else.